Learn How To Get Lucky In Your Dating Love Life
If you want to get lucky in your love life, you’ve got to become convinced of one thing. That one thing is that luck has nothing whatsoever to do with it. You have to be smart, you have to be clever, and you have to be a good person who is open to romance.
Women especially can think that they are not able to get lucky in their love life because they’ve tried before and failed. More than likely that wasn’t about failing to get lucky, as much as it was about making dumb mistakes in their relationships.
Here are some of the dumb things women do to sabotage their chance to get lucky in their love life.
The first mistake that can sabotage luck in love is getting inebriated on a date. Especially early on in the relationship stick to one - maybe two glasses of wine.
Getting sloshed doesn’t make you witty or brave. It makes you loud, unattractive, brazen and more often than not, saying or doing something that will embarrass you and end the relationship.
Don’t get nervous on your first or second or third date and just keep talking and talking and talking.
That little Eveready bunny can keep going and going and going and it’s cute and he might still get lucky in his love life, but you’ll just look self-absorbed.
Share something about yourself, but spend more time asking about him and then be quiet and listen. With a little luck your love life will bloom from your willingness to be his confidante and your decorum in public.
Another thing that can be really tacky and not help you get lucky in your love life is to appear cheap. It’s okay to sometimes pick up the check or go dutch. You don’t want to appear like an over spender either, but always ordering the salad and water may make you look like a real penny pincher and that’s not attractive.
Another related no-no is asking for a doggie bag. Don’t do it until you’re way into the relationship, or until he does it first.
Discussions of bodily functions can really ruin the luck you might have stumbled into in your love life. There’s nothing like a little talk of constipation to take the passion right out of the evening.
The other thing that can really give you some bad luck in your love life is running other women down to him - especially if you don’t know who he’s dating.
Worse yet, no matter how much he trashes his ex-wife or ex-lover, never trash her yourself. You can sympathize and say things like, “I can see why that kind of behavior would be upsetting to you,” but if you say, “You’re right, she is trash,” you’re more likely to find yourself listening to him defend her. And you won’t look attractive to him right then at all.
You can get lucky in your love life only if you make your own luck.
lytel_hartz January 1st, 2009, 7:46 pm
i stil love my ex..eventhough im reunited with my ex before him again…?
here's the story…
i have a bf of three years but he's not the typical bf that a girl will die for…
he's there but not totally there type of bf…because he's too busy to give me his full attention….
this kind of relationship cause me to long for someone who can give me their attention whenever i want…
i learned to cheat this way..having multiple relationships on the side…
i have this guy bestfriend who knows all about my infedelities..
and he's been asking me to stop doing it and respect myself…
he is a womanizer but he feels guilty about it too…
that's why we can understand each other…
he even advises me to just break up with my bf because our relationship is going nowhere…
i told him that i can't cause he still needs me…
well…i tried once but i accepted him again when i saw him cried…
after some time…my relationship with my bf is going smoothly…
until one day…my bestfriend called and wants to have a drinking session at his house…
i dont want to go..but i thought maybe he has a problem and he wants to share it while drinking liquor…
i told him i wont come if he will not invite other people cause i dont want to be left alone with him on a drinking session..because anything can happen…especially if you're drunk…
the dreaded day comes and he informed me that he was able to invite some of his high school friends…i then agreed to go to his house…well it was a fine night…i like his friends..they're nice…
but then it was getting late and i wanted to go home…he didn't allow me cause its not safe to go home anymore…so i texted my mom that i'll just sleep over my bestfriends house…
my mom texted back "ok"…i then text my bf that i'll just sleep over..he wanted to fetch me and send me home but i decline his offer…
at around 11pm i can now feel the effect of liquor and i felt that i wanted to sleep..i told my bestfriend that i wanted to sleep so he said i can sleep in his room…i went upstairs and heard him saying goodnight to his friends…i sleep facing the wall and he lay beside me facing the other side…im too sleepy so i dont mind him sleeping beside me…at around 2am i was awaken by his hug…he was hugging me and constantly moving…i then thought that maybe he's too drunk that he'd mistaken me as her gf…i didn't move and just pretend to be asleep…an hour past and he's still hugging me…i then decided to ask if he's awake..he answered back and then we started talking about how we got to know each other and ended up being best of friends…he was still hugging me all throughout the conversation…but i dont have the courage to let go of his hug..i did like him before..but i disregard the thought of being with him because we're both in a long term relationship…we talked and talked for hours until i felt his lips pressed against mine…i kissed him back…i was shocked that the first word that came out of my mouth was "why?!"…and then he confesses that he liked me even before…but he didnt pursue because he never saw any sign that i like him at all…after that much confessing…we sorted out into a more intimate kissing and foreplay…i know that what we've done is wrong because we're both in a serious relationship…though we have a slight problem with our bf/gf.. still, it's not right…i don''t know what came up to me that i allowed such thing to happen between us…but at that moment…i was overflowing with suppressed emotions for him..for the past two years ive been hiding my feelings and now i was able to let it out…just in one night…and it does change everything between us..i thought that maybe he was the one who will stop me from doing bad and he'll change me to become a better person….
around 7am we woke up and i can't look at his friends eyes cause i know they're thinking that something happened between me and my bestfriend..i forced a smile to avoid feeling awkward…we need to leave his house before 9am because his gf will visit him…i went home a bit happy but confused…"so, what will happen to us?"…"was that it?!"…"are we still friends or what?!"..i didnt text him that i got home safe because his gf might read it and it will costs them another argument…at around 4pm..he called me..saying that his gf was upstairs and he's just checking what im doing and he's planning to break up with her today..he was not successful in breaking up with her gf because she doesnt want to…
after that day…he managed to call me..text me…fetch me from work and even have dinner with me everyday…he managed to do the things my bf cannot afford to do because he's too busy..i started to fall for him really hard because of the consistency of what he's doing and no one ever makes me feel that important and special before..even my bf of three years..his gf broke up with him after a week…she was even calling me to talk to my bestfriend and tell him to hold on to their relationship…it was hard for me to do it because i wanted him for myself…i decided to decline her calls because i cannot lie to her anymore…that's why after two weeks i decided to broke up with my bf too..just to make my relationship with my bestfriend a real one…i even texted my other suitors that i have found the one i want to spend my life forever with and they should stop texting me…well..we go on smoothly…we're fine…but then one day i felt that he's too possessive..he doesn't want me going anywhere without him..he always want me for himself..i never realizes that he's like this before…but i manage to accept it…we then started to have our little arguments about simple things…and i even saw myself crying every now and then…too much pain causes me to love him so much….
after a month or two…he broke up with me with the reason that he's twisted and he thinks he cannot change his lifestyle of being a womanizer…but then when i was able to talked with him again..i've learned that he wants to go back to his ex gf…because he can't bear the fact that her ex was suffering and he's happy…he also confesses that when he woke up one day he realizes that he loved her more than me…that strucked me so hard..i love him so much…specially now and after all the pain of being with him..i never saw myself crying in the bus before…and i never let anyone see me cry…i guess this was the first relationship that i ever put my heart…all out…and i never left anything for myself..i really thought that he was the one for me..it never occur to me that i will get hurt this much…i even thought of ending my life…i was lucky to be surrounded by my friends..they listened and had helped me cope up quite a bit..
after five days ive learned that they're back together again…how could he do this to me..it was so easy for him to let go..did he really ever loved me…i feel like a fool..
now i don't have him anymore…i lost my bestfriend…we're not even friends coz i cannot pretend that i dont have feelings for him anymore…
weeks after our breakup…i communicated again with my ex before him…and decided to tell him everything about my infedelities…and if he was able to accept me despite and inspite of everything that i have done…i will try it again with him…we planned to go out on a trip…i tried opening it up to him…but everytime i will try he changes the topic abruptly…he never let me speak about it…after weeks of dating again…he told me that he knows everything and he doesn't want me to feel bad saying that kind of things that's why he changes the topic everytime i try to tell him the truth…and he's giving me a second chance…
well..im proud to say that im not seeing any other guy except him…and he's been extra sweet now and was giving me more of his attention compared before…
the only dilemma is that i can't stop thinking about my bestfriend..he's still in my heart..eventhough he'd done that to me…i know very well that if he will just come back to me..i will definitely accept him and leave the one im with again for sure…i know it's unfair..but i can't help it…i can't shut him out of my mind..i busied myself of work and stuff just to avoid having the time to even think about our past…it's hard…coz short was it was…it was still the best days of my life…and i never thought that our fairytale will have a very bad ending…
my ex-bestfriend is mad at me because my friends were angry with what he did to me…and he is fighting them back with harsh words…
cowboytoph January 2nd, 2009, 12:48 am
without even reading all that extra stuff, the answer to your question is another question: Do you really think you do love your ex?
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Alice in Wonderland January 2nd, 2009, 12:50 am
This question is too long, I admit I could not read to the end.. But, two exs and reunions, do not make a healthy environment. It seems your timing is wrong. See with whom you are compatible, who cares for you most, whom do you like most and forget once and for all the other.
Clear things up since this confusion will only make things worse and more complicated. Good luck
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ProudMamaOfThree January 2nd, 2009, 12:52 am
Oh dear!
I can tell you that in time, you'll get over this boy, but my goodness, you really are in love with him and I don't blame you. It sounds like you had a great time with him and he treated you well… but he's got issues and guys like him generally don't change easily.
I don't think you love your current boyfriend. Are you with him just so you won't be alone? Because maybe being alone is the answer.
You know how love feels. Now you've got to match it up with a decent guy!
Good luck!
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00silky January 2nd, 2009, 12:54 am
It seems as if you've gotten yourself into a bit of an awkward triangle. You're right, things have changed between you too. The question is what are you going to do about the situation your already in? You have to figure out for yourself if YOU want to be in that relationship that's not satisfying you. What you haven't mentioned is why your BF is so busy. You sound like a person who is unsure of herself, because most women know what they want. In your heart you want your best friend, however, your actions don't dictate that because you still have emotional hang-ups with your current BF. You explained in the begining that your BF broke up with you before and you took him back. That was your "out" then, now don't break up with him just to get back at him and go to your best friend, just for the sake of being in a relationship. If your unhappy; end it and stop denying yourself of what you really feel.
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Good Luck and I hope you get what you want.
Jason January 2nd, 2009, 12:56 am
cant you talk to your friends about this? we dont want to read all that crap. i read one sentence and had enough
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bossylee January 2nd, 2009, 12:58 am
girl!!!!!!!!! this has been the longest description to a question that i've ever read! well let me start by saying that i seriously think that you need some time alone, as in without a boyfriend or even a prospective, start all over again. let me tell you that in relationships usually what goes around comes around, explaining the pain you went thru with bestfriend breaking your heart, it's probably the pain that your original boyfriend went thru and still goes thru when you try talk about your infidelities. i think you really need to learn to be happy on your own before you can expect someone else to make you happy. i'm glad that you're now faithful to your boyfriend but technically your not, the fact that you have someone that you know you'll leave him over means that the relationship you're in's a waste of time, because sooner or later your gonna hurt him, whether he's giving you all his attention or not. my best advice to you's to cut bestfriend out of your llife, he sounds terrible and a little carniving, the whole hugging thing, he probably planned that out, and you have to let boyfriend go, it may hurt both you and him, yes, but it's nothing compared to the pain you'll cause when it finally happens whatever months or years down the line. a relationship with deception isn't a relationship at all, it leads to one thing and one thing only at the end of the day, and that's heart break. better go thru it now than later when it's more intense.
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Chris G January 2nd, 2009, 1:00 am
mann jjst 2 tell u dat truth u shoyuld go bac wif out wif him just smash tha papas
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Greg A January 2nd, 2009, 1:02 am
It sounds to me without being harsh here that ultimatley you need someone in your life and your committments are what suits the situation. You have had multiple partners a boyfriends and a bestfriend. Going back and forth like this puts you on an emotional rollercoaster. Find out what is ultimatley important to you. If your bestfriend who you "have feelings" for and hooked up with after a party and then turns around and then behaves the way he does, like being so posessive, why would you want to go back to something like that.
Love and relationships should be takin seriously not because of lonliness, hormones, its a foundation between 2 peole who care for one another so much that anything else in the world isnt as important.
good luck
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EarthTone January 2nd, 2009, 1:04 am
Warning, as you do to others that same thing shall be done to you. If your with someone and you even have the thought of being with someone else your opening up the possibilities of pain, hurt, problems, bad karma, basically said, you cant do something to someone and not expect for it not to happen to you. The brotha your with now seem like a good guy inwhich you women are always complaining the world dont have enough of. You are proof that some women have something to do with that. Let him go so he can find someone that truely deserves him, and theres plenty unworthy people out there that would love to play games with you.
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anne b January 2nd, 2009, 1:06 am
I just couldn't read it all but I'm glad you got it out for your own well-being.
You sound like you have a good brain but weak. Decide what you want and to do. Stopping messing with your life.
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